Instead of blame, just understand, and love the change.

Hello my fellow human Beings:

The spring weather is finally starting to appear and signs of new life are peaking through in the garden.  The season of spring visually reminds us of all the change occurring in our world.  It is a time when the dead of winter is transformed into the rebirth of spring.

For Christians, this weekend marks the celebration of Easter – a time of rebirth, resurrection, and new life. This holiday coincides nicely with the rebirth in nature and all the new life popping up in our gardens.  It is a good reminder of the constant change going on in our lives.

Change happens.  It is a universal truth, but our essence remains the same.


Change is …

 … as spring blossoms turn to summer greens.

 Change will be …

 … as autumn’s hues turn to winter’s whites.

 And throughout it all …

 … I Am.

The seasons remind us that we can accept change and still be truly us.  The tree that looks dead in winter, gets new buds and blossoms in spring, is in full green bloom in summer, turns a palette of hues in autumn, and then looses all its leaves in winter.  We know the tree is not dead in winter, it is just dormant.  The tree is still a tree throughout all its changes from winter to spring to summer to autumn and back to winter again.

So too do we stay essentially the same as we change through the seasons of our lives.

So we need not fear change.  We need not fear opening ourselves to different perspectives, viewpoints, and body transformations.  We need not blame others, when things aren’t exactly the way we had envisioned them to be.  Instead of blame, we can just seek to understand, and be open to love the changes.

Vietnamese Buddhist monk and peace activist, Thich Nhat Hahn reminds us that:

“When you plant lettuce, if it does not grow well, you don’t blame the lettuce. You look for reasons it is not doing well. It may need fertilizer, or more water, or less sun.  You never blame the lettuce.  Yet if we have problems with our friends or family, we blame the other person.  But if we know how to take care of them, they will grow well, like the lettuce.  Blaming has no positive effect at all, nor does trying to persuade using reason and argument.  That is my experience. No blame, no reasoning, no argument, just understanding. If you understand, and you show that you understand, you can love, and the situation will change.”

So this week, I encourage you to let go of your ego’s reactions to blame others and to defend its position.  Instead, PAUSE, BREATHE, be still a while and meditate so that you connect with Your True Self that is at its unchanging essence full of peace, love and joy.  Then, open your hearts to understand, to embrace and love the changes that abound.  For in doing so, you will live abundantly!

Happy Easter!  Happy Spring! Happy Change!


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