Hello my fellow human Beings:
What do you do when you receive personal bad news?
- Your wallet has been stolen.
- The furnace conked out and it’s the middle of winter.
- Your boss tells you that the company’s letting you go.
How do you feel when you hear this unpleasant news?
How peaceful are you when misfortune knocks on your door?
Like most people, your initial reaction may be to feel angry or anxious. Perhaps you blame, curse or criticize someone else. Perhaps you complain and vent to others.
Are you really being you in these situations or are these your automatic responses from your ego?
When our egos blindly react to these unpleasant triggers – THE BAD NEWS – we display signs of attachment that cause us to suffer. By clinging or craving to the thing we have lost (my wallet, my furnace, my job, my money), we resist the change or loss, and instead of having peace or harmony in our lives, we have suffering and pain.
So what is a better way?
Our meditation practice teaches us about “NONATTACHMENT” – letting go, accepting, allowing. Instead of identifying with our feelings, thoughts, and possessions, we accept things as they are in the moment, without judgement and without associating them with who we are.
We are not our possessions, our feelings, our thoughts, our jobs, our roles, etc.
Who we are is the consciousness, the awareness, the being behind it all that is always present no matter if we are experiencing life’s ups or life’s downs.
Contemporary spiritual teacher, Eckhart Tolle, in his book, A New Earth, describes non-attachment (allowing, accepting) as follows:
“Accepting means you allow yourself to feel whatever it is you are feeling at that moment. It is part of the is-ness of the Now. You can’t argue with what is. Well, you can, but if you do, you suffer. Through allowing, you become what you are: vast, spacious. You become whole. You are not a fragment anymore, which is how the ego perceives itself. Your true nature emerges, which is one with the nature of God.”
So the next time you find misfortune knocking at your door, remember to PAUSE, be still, BREATHE, connect to your true Being. Be aware of what you are feeling in that moment. Accept your feelings. Observe them without judgement. But above all, remember that you are not your feelings. Instead, recall that you are the consciousness who is aware of all that is unfolding in your life around you. When you are connected to your True Self (one with the Universe/God), then you can take appropriate action to manage life’s downs (and ups). By doing so, you suffer less, you are open to new opportunities, and you live more abundantly.