Do you remember all the little acts of kindness and love that happened today?

Hello my fellow human Beings:

As you go through your day and you receive little compliments and gestures of kindness and love do you remember them, count them and replay them over and over in your mind?

Your answer is probably NO.

Yet, if I asked you if you remembered the unkind words spoken to you, or the mistakes you made, or the rude gestures you received over the last day or two, you could probably spout off a few examples.

Our egos and our conditioning cause us to remember, recall and replay all the negatives over and over again.  We complain and “vent” about the wrongs committed against us or we beat ourselves up over and over about the mistakes and missteps we made.

This negative, broken old recording, stuck on repeat, can get us trapped in a down mood or keep us from being encouraged and motivated about the pursuit of our dreams and goals.

Yes, setbacks happen in life and sometimes we step in a bit of ‘doo-doo’, but if we focus on that ‘crap’, then we can get mired in the muck and fail to progress forward.

However, if in those times (or even every day), we can focus on all the little acts of kindness and love around us, we can pick up our spirits and refocus our thoughts and perspective to see that there is still abundance in our lives, even in the seemingly darkest moments.

Author and motivational speaker, Leo Buscaglia (a.k.a. Dr. Love) remarked:

“Too often we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment, or the smallest act of caring, all of which have the potential to turn a life around.” 

Ever notice how when you receive a smile, a kind word, a pat on the back or an honest compliment your mood picks up, you smile, you feel the warmth of the other person’s love and kindness and you may even get a little bounce in your step.

And what about when you give that smile, offer that kind word or honest compliment or cheery greeting?  How good does that make you feel, let alone the recipient?

English romantic poet, William Wordsworth wrote:

“The best portion of a good [person’s] life — [those] little, nameless, unremembered acts of kindness and love.”

In addition, American basketball player and one of the most revered basketball coaches, John Wooden said:

“You can’t live a perfect day without doing something for someone who will never be able to repay you.” 

So this week, especially with Earth Day this Sunday, April 22, 2012, I encourage you to find little ways to perform acts of kindness and love as frequently as you can, so that you too can live a perfect day.

Perhaps you can:

  • offer a warm greeting and a word of thanks to the window washer you pass, the busser at the restaurant you eat at, or the bus driver on your public transit ride;
  • smile and say hello to the homeless person on the street and offer her a coin, or an apple or a book;
  • pick up some garbage from the sidewalk, path or park as you walk your dog;
  • give someone an honest compliment, especially when they least expect it; or
  • pledge to conserve water, recycle more or reduce your use of plastic and help achieve A Billion Acts of Green ( (Then do it!).

Whatever you choose to do and wherever you choose to go, remember what American contemporary spiritual teacher, Ram Dass, said:

“Treat everyone you meet as if they are God in drag.”

Then find the time each day to be still, reflect and recall all the little acts of kindness and love you did and you received, connect to the Oneness of us all, and live abundantly!


2 thoughts on “Do you remember all the little acts of kindness and love that happened today?

  1. Hi Valerie, Thanks so much for this great reminder to do away with the negativity that we have experienced and put an end to the constant replay mode. How do you focus on staying present if you’re thinking about past experiences – negative or positive? That’s what I struggle with.

    • Hi Michela:

      Thanks for the comment. Meditation practice helps to focus your attention to the present moment. It’s a mind training exercise to help you be more in the now. The more you practice the longer you can be present and the more you can reap the benefits of that connection to the now. Even a short breath awareness meditation when you find your mind rolling in thoughts of the past (or future) can help break that pattern and ground you more in the present moment.

      Let me know how that works for you.


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